Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Go Back                 Case Posted on October 17, 2015 12:51 pm Add to Favorites RuZyGy Reps: 78 Touchy Students I have a 4th grade male student who seems to be touchy with me. He's always touching my arms, poking me, and touching my hair. I always remind him to keep his hands to himself, but he always comes back doing the same thing. How should I handle this?                 Submit a Possible Solution Please read response(s) below (if any) before posting your solution.                 Solution 1 Posted October 17, 2015 7:12 pm ySudyG Reps: 166 Have you thought about talking to a counselor about the student's behavior? We recently had to do a training session at my school about identifying children who might be abused, and I'm not saying that is the situation here, but one of the indicators is a child who touches others and demands the attention of an adult. If this is not the situation (and I hope it is not!) perhaps you need to have a parent-teacher conference and make the parents aware of the issue and gain their cooperation on getting the child to stop this behavior. Votes: +38 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution rybuZy Reps: 200 I think so too: this student may need psychiatric help.   Posted on: October 16, 2017 3:01 am Add a Comment                 Solution 2 Posted February 24, 2016 2:03 am Taylor Katsarelas Reps: 102 I would revise your classroom rules and make this one of your classroom rules. I would teach this to the students as well as the consequences that go with the rule, if it broken. If the behavior still continues after the rules are implemented with consequences for the student, I would then get a councilor involved with the problem. Votes: +8 / -1 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 3 Posted October 17, 2015 9:17 pm yQuQaH Reps: 101 If you hold class meetings you could review classroom behavioral expectations with all of your students. Perhaps using what if scenarios and having students provide appropriate behaviors might help the student understand the expectations for the class also apply to him. Votes: +7 / -3 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 4 Posted October 18, 2015 3:22 pm aNajem Reps: 79 I think that contacting the school counselor will definitely help. I would also discuss with the student was is an appropriate touch and what is not an appropriate touch. The behavior of this student would send up some red flags for me. I would continue to treat them like every other student, but maybe take time out to just talk to them and listen. It doesn't matter the age of the students, they all still need to feel loved by their teachers and they still need to get hugs. Votes: +6 / -1 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 5 Posted October 18, 2015 10:05 pm VuGuGu Reps: 127 One of my coworkers has this issue with one of her 3rd graders. She has spoken with his parents, and they have stated that he is touchy at home too. They do understand that it is inappropriate at school, so they have decided to agree on a solution. This student understands that in order to address the teacher when he is close to her, he must either put his hands in his pockets or place them behind his back. Votes: +5 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution rybuZy Reps: 200 You may need to get the parents involved, right.   Posted on: October 16, 2017 3:01 am Add a Comment                 Solution 6 Posted October 18, 2015 5:25 pm ZujaTa Reps: 76 Along with discussing the issue with the councilor, and possibly your admin team, to find different solutions, you could also talk directly with the student about how it makes you feel when he is constantly touching you, how it would make him feel if someone were to do the same to him, and most importantly, about the importance of consent. This is a newspaper article posted by The Washington Post about the importance of teaching our children/students about consent at a very young age (http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/02/13/its-never-too-early-to-teach-children-about-consent-and-boundaries/). The student might not be receiving these lessons at home, and could actually be receiving the opposite message, and if he understands that he needs to listen to your wishes and understand your boundaries he may stop touching, or at least ask for permission before he does. Votes: +4 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 7 Posted October 9, 2016 9:44 pm qyryMa Reps: 203 I would first discuss with the school counselor and parents. But having rules such as hands in his pockets when he comes to your desk. Votes: +3 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 8 Posted October 19, 2015 7:25 pm yZytaz Reps: 201 I think contacting the schools guidance counselor will really help to see why he is doing this even when you are saying stop. Also there should be consequences for the student if he does it again after you have said enough. Votes: +2 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 9 Posted February 22, 2016 9:50 pm Victoria Horn Reps: 201 I would continually let the student know that it is disrespectful to touch others. Also, I would ask the parents as to why he is so touchy. I would see if he is doing this to other students. Votes: +2 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution rybuZy Reps: 200 I don't think just criticizing the student will do much.   Posted on: October 16, 2017 3:02 am Add a Comment                 Solution 10 Posted February 26, 2016 9:46 pm taMaSe Reps: 201 I would pull the student aside and talk to him privately. Ask him his intentions in being so touchy feely with you, but in a Non-accusing, appropriate way. If he does not stop after you speak to him, then I would call the parents and schedule a conference with them. Record anecdotal data so that you have it to show the parents. Votes: +2 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 11 Posted March 7, 2016 2:04 am useZyt Reps: 207 I think speaking with the guidance counselor would be a great idea. Maybe this student just needs a little extra attention and that's why they are constantly touching. Votes: +2 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 12 Posted October 9, 2016 3:49 am uBuDub Reps: 154 I would let the student know that since he is not respecting your request, let him that their are now consequences to his actions of not respecting individuals personal space. Votes: +2 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 13 Posted July 10, 2016 7:16 pm juWuPe Reps: 203 My recommendation would be reaching out to the counselor about this behavior. Express your concerns . Votes: +2 / -1 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 14 Posted October 16, 2016 9:15 pm ytupyQ Reps: 208 Contacting the schools counselor would be the first step and also try explaining to the student why is behavior is wrong. Votes: +1 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 15 Posted July 8, 2016 3:35 am eHebah Reps: 210 Children like people have love languages ways that they give and receive love perhaps his touch. With that being said, he needs to learn proper ways of touching Often people have more than one try to figure out others what other ways he feels loved and reassure him in more appropriate ways. Votes: +0 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 16 Posted October 9, 2016 7:23 pm MePyJy Reps: 205 While i personally have the need to fiddle with things and have been touchy with others, ti ends up being the important of boundaries and shared experiences. I learned to stop touching things and other because after i broke enough things and was told to stop i was taught to keep my hand behind my myself or in pockets. I was then asked how would you like if I were to be constantly touched. It not only stopped me it also taught me why I should not do it Votes: +0 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 17 Posted February 24, 2017 4:19 am ZaBuBy Reps: 200 You need to put a stop to this before it becomes a problem. Report ASAP Votes: +0 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 18 Posted February 27, 2017 3:15 am Hedese Reps: 202 Constant reminders that students do not put their hands on teachers and teachers do not put their hands on students. Votes: +0 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 19 Posted October 9, 2017 1:44 am DebaDy Reps: 100 I would first let the school admin know what is going on and what you plan to do to stop the behavior. I would never want this behavior to be misunderstood by someone outside of the class and then going to admin before I had the chance. People always assume the worst and I wouldn't want to be alone in trying to handle this behavior. I would also go to the counselor and begin taking anecdotal notes on how often this behavior occurs or if there is anything else different about the student that day. Additionally I would make sure the parents are aware of the behavior just to make sure everyone is aware and on the same page. Doing a whole class lesson on appropriate and inappropriate behaviors and touches could also be beneficial. Votes: +0 / -0 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 20 Posted July 10, 2017 3:49 am qyGaQa Reps: 173 Write him up or send a notice home to the parents informing them of what their child is doing and that it is making you uncomfortable. Inform administration as well so they can help you in the situation. Votes: +0 / -1 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Solution 21 Posted October 18, 2015 3:36 pm eQynuv Reps: 102 Explain to him that this amount of contact is inappropriate and if it continues you will have to speak with the school counselor. Votes: +0 / -9 This Solution Is Useful   This Solution Is Not Useful   Comments posted for this solution Add a Comment                 Submit a Possible Solution Please read response(s) below (if any) before posting your solution.