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Posted on July 29, 2021 3:38 pm
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Aslihan Unal
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Lunch in teacher's room
I have a student who comes to my classroom and wants to eat lunch with me every day. She comes in and asks to have a "bite" of my sandwich or for me to split my food with her. I started locking the door, but she knows I am in there and will continue to knock until I open the door. She has friends to eat with, but I think she just does not like the cafeteria food and wants my lunch instead. She does not come in and talk to me either; she just sits on her phone and asks me to walk with her to a restaurant close to the school and buy her food. What do I do with this student? Do I continue to give her my food, or do I put my foot down?
 
     
     
 
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Solution 1
Posted October 29, 2021 5:39 pm

ydaWeR
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Definitely put your foot down because it is not your job to sit and feed a student especially when lunch breaks are meant to be breaks. I would ask the student why they want to specifically sit with you and come up with a solution with them and make sure they understand that lunch time is you time
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Solution 2
Posted October 25, 2021 6:50 pm

Sophia Sunyak
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This is a tough one. On one hand, I would be worried about the student's situation at home. Do their parents not have enough money for food? Do they give the student lunch money? It may be a good idea to get with the students' other teachers and see if they've noticed any other odd behavior. It would be a little obvious to the student if you just put your foot down and said "no". That could also lead to a bigger issue or a mental breakdown. Also, if it is occurring everyday and it doesn't break the bank, it could be possible to pack her an extra peanut butter and jelly and send the student on their way to the cafeteria with it. It may just be a case of motherly love or lackthereof. Also, what grade is this?
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Solution 3
Posted April 17, 2022 11:29 pm

uVeneH
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There are obvious boundaries the student is crossing. You should put your foot down. That being said, you should investigate further into whether the student is simply taking advantage of you or if there is a food scarcity/parental neglect issue going on.
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Solution 4
Posted April 18, 2022 12:44 am

Lauren Toner
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This is by far a problem. This behavior has a root in the problem that the student is facing. I think you should call or email home and make sure they are eating properly and address it from that angle. You can also put your foot down with the student and tell them no more lunches but that you have classroom snacks that they can earn throughout each school day. I would not buy her food, as that can be viewed in a negative light.
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Solution 5
Posted October 5, 2022 6:09 pm

ByDaDu
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This seems very sweet because she seems like she confines in you and that she feels comfortable with you. But you need your lunch break as well. I would let her know that you would be happy to walk with her to the cafeteria this one time to get her comfortable there, but students have to eat lunch at the cafeteria with their friends. But Also let her know if she needs anything she can always talk to you.
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Solution 6
Posted November 11, 2022 3:45 pm

amyJyp
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This is tough. I think you need to first understand the reason why the student wants to eat lunch with you every day or asks you for your food or for you to buy her food. Then I thin, based on that information, you need to find help for that student, such as applying for free lunch or from a social worker, and then set boundaries.
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Solution 7
Posted February 24, 2023 9:47 pm

yrujyd
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I would say put your foot down, but there also could be an underlying issue that is causing this. Investigating or talking to a school social worker about this behavior may be essential to see if something is causing this issue.
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Solution 8
Posted March 27, 2023 2:30 pm

aXeDen
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I would put your foot down immediately. It is not your responsibility to feed this student and them asking that of you is crossing a boundary. Tell them that they need to eat lunch with the other students and if they do not like the cafeteria food, then they need to ask their parents for a different type of lunch. That's their own responsibility.
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Solution 9
Posted October 6, 2023 8:57 pm

bequja
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I would never share my personal lunch with a student. Sure it may be okay for them to come eat in my room, but I would suggest other options the student can have if they do not like the cafeteria food. I would maybe keep some snacks to give them or discuss with the student why it is inappropriate to share food. Students will try to take advantage of teachers in these situations, so you have to let them know that you are a human with needs and wants too!
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Solution 10
Posted October 2, 2021 8:05 pm

aQePuW
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You need to put your foot down. Maybe talk to the principal but you can not share food.
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Solution 11
Posted October 31, 2021 8:55 pm

bepaRu
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I would first explain to the student that she could no longer do this and that you would like to know why she thinks she can do this, as you may not know what her home situation is, and ask why she does not want to eat with her friends at lunch, so that you may gain a deeper understanding on why she is doing this.
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Solution 12
Posted April 12, 2022 9:36 pm

JeRaGu
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Put your foot down. The cafeteria gives her food, it's not your responsibility to feed her. I would inform the administration and I would suggest taking lunch elsewhere for a few weeks.
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Solution 13
Posted October 26, 2021 3:39 am

Georgia Gee
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It's a tricky one because maybe there is some serious reason she is doing this. Perhaps confront her head on and ask why she is doing this.
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