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Case: Her Parents or Her Boyfriend
As a high school teacher, somehow I always hated when students opened up to me and shared with me things that they could not share with anyone else. It was one of those things again when Emily, a White 11th grader, wanted to talk to me. She said she wanted to talk to me about something important and that she needed my help. I am a caring teacher, so I listened. She has been dating an African American student named Willy and she is really in love with him. Willy loves her too. They want to go to the same college and get married after graduating. The problem is Emily has not been able to tell her family about this relationship. She said that her father is not very fond of Black people, and that there is no way he would approve this relationship. She asked me to talk to her parents. I told her that I could not do it. She, then said, she would either kill herself or run away from her house if somebody did not convince her parents. I have to do something, but what? Please advice.
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I'm pretty sure you have to turn this one over to the guidance counselor. This is way out of your jurisdiction! Seek help from the administration for both Emily and yourself. You don't need to get involved in something so serious. This particular issue is way above your pay grade, so let the professionals handle this issue. |
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Rated On: February 17, 2013 8:49 pm |
Rated By: Alisha Williams |
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Comments: This is exactly what I would suggest. |
Rated On: February 19, 2013 12:54 am |
Rated By: maWyZu |
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Rated On: March 3, 2013 8:17 pm |
Rated By: yTuGyd |
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Comments: Agreed. With a serious problem like this, you should let the expert solve it. |
Rated On: October 19, 2014 5:46 pm |
Rated By: Adam Sanchez |
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Comments: I agree, this solution is best for everyone involved. |
Rated On: October 19, 2014 6:45 pm |
Rated By: adenar |
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Comments: Yes! As an educator you have to acknowledge when something is over your head. The best thing to do is notify someone who can professionally help the situation. |
Rated On: October 19, 2014 9:30 pm |
Rated By: Lauren Hill |
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Comments: I agree the guidance counselor is a good choice for this situation. |
Rated On: February 20, 2015 5:18 am |
Rated By: ehaZeb |
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Comments: If this student places this much trust in you, and possibly only you, I would still try to help in some way no matter how small or big the help you can offer may be. The guidance counselor should be notified and become involved as well but I would try to keep the girls trust because she did come to you first and losing your trust alone might push her to an edge that no one wants. |
Rated On: March 3, 2015 12:17 am |
Rated By: eWeHaz |
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Comments: I would do exactly this. |
Rated On: October 27, 2015 2:30 am |
Rated By: yheGaQ |
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Comments: This is definitely something to get involved in so I would not agree with your solution. |
Rated On: March 2, 2016 5:42 am |
Rated By: uBybuz |
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Comments: I agree |
Rated On: March 6, 2016 1:45 am |
Rated By: uPuneq |
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Comments: First off this solution is inappropriate for saying this issue is above a teacher's "pay grade". After all, teachers are overpaid as it is but still do way more than what they are paid for. Even though this issue does go beyond the point that teacher's have to include someone in a higher position by law, but teachers need to still be there with the additional party they reach out too |
Rated On: July 5, 2016 3:14 am |
Rated By: aWyVys |
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Comments: I do not agree how you stated this solution, but I do agree with yes you should give this over to the counselor and just let Emily know you are there for support. |
Rated On: October 17, 2016 3:27 am |
Rated By: Raven B |
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Comments: I absolutely agree. |
Rated On: March 3, 2017 11:00 pm |
Rated By: uDaHeD |
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Comments: This is a great solution! |
Rated On: March 4, 2017 4:06 pm |
Rated By: eqeJaQ |
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Comments: I agree, these kind of situations should be taken care with the school counselor especially since this is such a personal matter. |
Rated On: March 6, 2017 2:55 am |
Rated By: avenyB |
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Comments: great solution
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Rated On: October 9, 2017 2:49 am |
Rated By: uhuQyM |
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Comments: Good suggestion, I would talk to a counselor about this situation because they more than likely will have experience or better knowledge. Not worth it to let it bother the teacher. |
Rated On: October 16, 2017 12:55 am |
Rated By: eHuPas |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
Rated On: February 26, 2018 12:20 am |
Rated By: DuTepy |
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Comments: Completely agree with this solution. This is what guidance counselors are for. |
Rated On: October 14, 2018 7:11 pm |
Rated By: sadaze |
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Comments: i agree |
Rated On: October 27, 2018 3:06 pm |
Rated By: Carla Crumb |
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Comments: I agree this is the most appropriate thing to do in that situation. |
Rated On: October 20, 2019 7:03 pm |
Rated By: Anastasia Stampoulis |
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Comments: i agree, guidance counselors would be best |
Rated On: October 18, 2020 2:48 am |
Rated By: VePuWu |
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Comments: This sounds like the best way to handle the situation! It’s best to help keep the student safe, especially if they’ve seemingly threatened their own life |
Rated On: November 10, 2022 7:38 am |
Rated By: muWyZy |
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Comments: as soon as they threaten suicide, there is a protocol to follow. report it. thank you. |
Rated On: November 13, 2022 8:22 pm |
Rated By: buTuDe |
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