Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Teacher crush I teach special education and have an 8th grade student with autism on my caseload. His math teacher informed me recently that she thinks he has a crush on her. He is new to the school and has not made any friends but is more comfortable talking with adults than his peers. When walking to lunch, he does not walk with the class and instead walks closely beside his teacher. He also visits her between every class period and tries to give her hugs and wants to rest his head on her shoulder. One day during a restroom break, I saw him trying to take a picture of her on his cell phone. When she has talked to him about appropriate relationships between teachers and students he does not seem to understand and asks questions such as "So, are we still cool?" afterwards. When I spoke with him about it and suggested that we may have to change his class, he broke down and started crying. But is there any other way that I could handle this situation without changing his teacher? Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) I would suggest having a male teacher have a talk with the student. Teacher student relationships should be strictly professional with no exceptions. Even though this student is new and does not have many friends yet he needs to understand that his behavior towards this teacher needs to stop. Also having the teacher herself have a talk with the student may benefit because he does admire her and may really listen to what she has to say.                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I believe that this solution will not help the situation at all. A student with autism is very much different than a regular education student. This matter needs to be addressed in a different way. Rated On: October 15, 2015 1:34 am Rated By: ezuXuD                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I do not think this will solve the problem. Rated On: October 16, 2015 4:20 am Rated By: uJuPyS                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I think it is a tad ignorant to immediately switch to a male teacher to end the 'crush' issue, and certainly is hurtful to the student. I think there are more steps that can be taken to prevent an immediate change in teachers. Rated On: October 17, 2015 5:17 am Rated By: Cortnie                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This could make the child feel cornered and threatened. Rated On: October 18, 2015 9:39 pm Rated By: tygaBu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: The female teacher has already spoken to him and nothing has come out of it. Having a male teacher talk to him about this may only insight a sort of competition for the student because he may see the male teacher as another person who has a crush on the teacher. Rated On: October 18, 2015 11:40 pm Rated By: ezyMyM                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I think he would miss the point if he had a one on one talk with her. He obviously has a huge crush on her and this behavior should be handled with more people supporting her. Rated On: October 18, 2015 11:48 pm Rated By: eMuHub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is not as useful Rated On: October 19, 2015 2:55 am Rated By: azuTen                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: This is a great solution. A male teacher can help the student realize his behavior is not appropriate. Rated On: March 6, 2016 11:22 pm Rated By: yLeBun                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is not the best way to handle this. Rated On: March 3, 2017 6:04 am Rated By: udaXuh                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: This is a good idea. It's important that the teacher keeps her authority, so she needs to be the one to say something to him and get the situation straightened out. Rated On: October 9, 2017 6:28 pm Rated By: aduNaQ                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: The case study has made it sound like the teacher who he has a crush on has already talked to him repeatively. I don't think that is working. Rated On: February 24, 2019 8:38 pm Rated By: upehaS                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I would get the parents or administration involved. Rated On: February 24, 2020 2:32 am Rated By: ameteV