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Case: Sexist Parent
I have a male student that works very well with the other boys in the classroom but when it comes to working with the girls he says a lot of sexist comments such as, "Why do you even try when you're just going to end up in the kitchen." I asked for a conference with the parents and found out that the father has been teaching him very sexist things. He continuously disrespected me and told me that what his son was saying is the truth in the end. His mother was not there and so I felt very uncomfortable and very mad that his father was treating me this way. I have tried contacting the mother to try and get her to come in but she constantly cancels on me and does not respond to any of my emails or notes. What should I do?
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
In this type of situation I would call for another conference and insist that both parents attend. Even if the mother cancels again make sure to have another teacher in the classroom this time. Preferably a male administrator, guidance consoler, or just even another male teacher. If this does not work for the parents then try and break the habit for the student. Move him down on the behavior chart after every sexist comment. Either way it sounds like it may take some time to get this issue to pass over. |
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Comments: I think this solution is helpful. |
Rated On: October 15, 2015 10:57 pm |
Rated By: Jessica Sorensen |
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Comments: This solution is very helpful |
Rated On: October 16, 2015 4:33 am |
Rated By: uJuPyS |
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Comments: I like everything about this, and especially like the idea of the behavior chart as an effective consequence system to aid in behavior changes. |
Rated On: October 17, 2015 1:53 am |
Rated By: Cortnie |
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Comments: Good idea to have another teacher in the room when doing the meeting |
Rated On: October 17, 2015 5:33 pm |
Rated By: qutehu |
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Comments: I found this solution to be very useful. |
Rated On: October 17, 2015 9:15 pm |
Rated By: duryvy |
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Comments: I think that this solution is the best possible answer to this case. This is exactly what I would do in this given situation. |
Rated On: October 17, 2015 10:11 pm |
Rated By: ezuXuD |
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Comments: Good solution |
Rated On: October 19, 2015 3:18 am |
Rated By: usaWaZ |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. |
Rated On: October 19, 2015 3:52 am |
Rated By: RuTemu |
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Comments: It is a good idea to have another staff member with you. |
Rated On: February 28, 2016 4:44 am |
Rated By: uVeWar |
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Comments: You can't really INSIST that both parents attend. |
Rated On: March 1, 2016 10:30 pm |
Rated By: daPaJa |
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Comments: Agreed. |
Rated On: March 4, 2016 4:25 pm |
Rated By: beTyZa |
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Comments: I like this tip. |
Rated On: March 6, 2016 8:49 pm |
Rated By: anaXan |
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Comments: I like the idea of moving the child down on the behavior chart. |
Rated On: July 11, 2016 2:38 am |
Rated By: yGapeW |
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Comments: This solution is one I would use |
Rated On: March 2, 2017 11:41 pm |
Rated By: tuBaZu |
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Comments: great response! |
Rated On: March 2, 2017 11:57 pm |
Rated By: Travis Cannon |
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Comments: I completely agree with insisting on having both parents there for the conference. In a situation like this, I would like to see how the mother acts around her husband. It can help me understand what the home situation might be like. Also, having a male administrator there for support during the conference would help too. If that doesn't work, then i agree with your method of breaking the habit for the student by moving him down on the behavior chart. |
Rated On: March 4, 2017 4:04 pm |
Rated By: avenyB |
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Comments: Its not the students fault his father is teaching him these ridiculous things |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:46 pm |
Rated By: ReRege |
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Comments: Back-up would be a great idea. Any sexist comments need to be shut down immediately, as it is extremely inappropriate and disrespectful. |
Rated On: October 11, 2017 12:46 am |
Rated By: yGeHyz |
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Comments: This is a great way to have some extra accountability |
Rated On: October 12, 2017 1:04 am |
Rated By: JeVese |
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Comments: Agreed! |
Rated On: October 14, 2017 2:40 am |
Rated By: emetub |
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Comments: Well I like the beginning of the solution I do feel however that the students shouldn't be punished so extremely for his behaviour as it is obvious now that they are learned from the parents and he doesn't really know better |
Rated On: October 15, 2017 11:58 pm |
Rated By: duPuSa |
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Comments: I feel this to be a very effective and useful solution. |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:41 pm |
Rated By: aWyreQ |
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Comments: I like this idea |
Rated On: October 3, 2018 11:04 pm |
Rated By: eqeJaQ |
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Comments: I found your solution to be well thought out and very helpful! |
Rated On: October 15, 2018 12:58 am |
Rated By: zetyWy |
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Comments: Someone higher up needs to be there to settle the dad down. |
Rated On: October 29, 2021 5:49 am |
Rated By: Drew Brown |
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Comments: I agree. Try and have the mother at the next meeting and another person in the room with you both. |
Rated On: April 1, 2022 9:54 pm |
Rated By: eSysyv |
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Comments: I agree with this solution that the teacher should reach out for the support of an administrator and explain the way the parent is not taking them seriously. |
Rated On: November 6, 2023 3:38 am |
Rated By: upaMyb |
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