Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Overbearing/Blaming Parent I have a parent that did nothing to prepare her child for kindergarten. He could not write, spell his name, recognize letters or numbers, and he couldn't count. He has made remarkable gains and I am proud of him. However, every time I post a grade about something, his mother complains. She feels that he should be reading on a second grade level because the other students in my classroom are reading on that level. I have tried to explain to her that he did not come in with a foundation like the other kids did. She spends her day harassing me and writing my principal. She will find anything to complain about. I even had a meeting with her and my data coach to go over his data with him. What can I do to keep her from harassing me? Please help! I am a new teacher and she is one of the most overbearing people I've met! Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) Give her tips and work to work with him at home with to catch him up. If she needs proof that her son is not on the second grade level, have a conference and ask the student to read a second grade book to show the mother that he is not ready. If the student has help at home, it is never to late to help him catch up to his classmates. Make sure there is an administrator in the conference.                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Giving the parent tips on how to help the student at home shows that you are willing to work with the parent to catch the student up with the others. Rated On: October 2, 2015 6:57 pm Rated By: puQuZu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Although this is not a wrong solution, I personally do not think that it is the best. Having a conference and "proving" to the mother that her son cannot read a second grade book might be offensive to the mother and could make her upset. It would not be good for her to pull her son out of the school. Rated On: October 14, 2015 1:45 am Rated By: JatePa                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I think it is a good idea, but could be taken the wrong way by the parent. Rated On: October 15, 2015 3:46 am Rated By: eZuGeQ                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Having the student read a book above his level during a conference to prove a point would be a negative experience for both parent and child. Rated On: October 18, 2015 1:10 am Rated By: eMaGeB                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I think having the student show that he is not at a 2nd grade level could bring up problems that might have been avoided. Rated On: October 18, 2015 10:20 pm Rated By: eMuHub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I don't agree with having the student brought before his mother and embarrassed by not being able to read a second grade level book. This may also cause the mother to become angry at causing her child stress and emotional pain. Rated On: October 19, 2015 1:09 am Rated By: ezyMyM                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Giving the a second grade book to read and knowing that he can not is offensive. Rated On: March 4, 2016 6:45 pm Rated By: pytaLy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I do not think the student should be put on the spot and this solution may make the parent more upset. Rated On: October 16, 2016 1:15 am Rated By: RehaGa                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I would not do this. As a teacher its your job to uplift the student and point out progress and encourage them to do their very best. I do not think it is appropriate to point out the students failures or give them work that is clearly to difficult for them to show them they cant do it. Rated On: October 17, 2016 12:26 am Rated By: ZeSuQy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: The parent will not like the fact that she is saying she NEEDS to work with her child at home Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:50 pm Rated By: ReRege                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Extra work at home is a great solution, but I don't think you should have the student prove he is not performing on the same level as his classmates. . Rated On: July 10, 2017 1:08 am Rated By: jeRumu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I think showing the parent the student being unable to read a second grade book would help her back off. Rated On: October 15, 2017 7:52 pm Rated By: GaVyme                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I would be careful with this solution. Rated On: October 13, 2019 11:59 pm Rated By: GeQapy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I do not agree with using the child as a prop. Rated On: October 20, 2019 1:45 pm Rated By: JyXamu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I would not do this. I disagree with this solution because making the child read at a second grade level when you know they can't puts them on the spot and it can be discouraging and embarrassing for them. Rated On: October 18, 2020 6:27 pm Rated By: Santana Loar                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: A real time demonstration would be very helpful. Rated On: October 19, 2020 1:54 am Rated By: eMuQah                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: The problem I have is that even if you show someone something they will just ignore it or blame you for the issue. Rated On: October 31, 2021 6:48 am Rated By: aseTyD                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: i think this is a great idea Rated On: October 31, 2021 5:04 pm Rated By: quHyra                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I don't think I would do this. It might lead into a big feud Rated On: November 8, 2021 3:05 am Rated By: uguZyt