Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Sexist Parent I have a male student that works very well with the other boys in the classroom but when it comes to working with the girls he says a lot of sexist comments such as, "Why do you even try when you're just going to end up in the kitchen." I asked for a conference with the parents and found out that the father has been teaching him very sexist things. He continuously disrespected me and told me that what his son was saying is the truth in the end. His mother was not there and so I felt very uncomfortable and very mad that his father was treating me this way. I have tried contacting the mother to try and get her to come in but she constantly cancels on me and does not respond to any of my emails or notes. What should I do? Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) I would immediately go to the guidance counselor. This is completely inappropriate and unacceptable.                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: It would help but it is difficult situation. Rated On: October 15, 2015 10:44 pm Rated By: Robert Hendler                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I do not think the guidance counselor would be that helpful. I think the principal should get involved. Rated On: October 15, 2015 10:57 pm Rated By: Jessica Sorensen                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is fine for the issue with a parent being disrespectful to the teacher, but it will not help the child's behavior improve, which is the main concern. Rated On: October 17, 2015 1:53 am Rated By: Cortnie                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I think this is a good idea. I saw other comments saying how setting up a meeting with both parents would be a good idea but chances are that will never happen. If the mother hasn't come yet and she doesn't reply to emails, she isn't planning on coming. Although it seems harsh to some, I think the student needs to speak to the principal. It is unfortunate that the child grows up in a home with such negativity, but that can not be brought into school and that is not acceptable. Rated On: October 18, 2015 4:43 am Rated By: yseHug                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This will not solve the problem. The way they want to raise their son at home is their choice. Rated On: October 18, 2015 4:59 pm Rated By: Qanuna                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Why burden someone else with the problem when it can be dealt with in a positive manner? Rated On: October 18, 2015 10:33 pm Rated By: eMuHub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Going straight to the guidance counselor is not the solution. Rated On: October 18, 2015 11:13 pm Rated By: zaLyju                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Though I believe a guidance counselor can help I do not believe that the teacher should seize interaction with the parents. Maybe call the guidance councilor in on the next parent teacher conference. Rated On: October 19, 2015 12:36 am Rated By: tygaBu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I think that this would not solve the problem in the end. The student must learn that what he is doing is not right and not true. Getting the guidance counselor involved will not correct that mindset. Rated On: October 19, 2015 12:53 am Rated By: ezyMyM                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I don't think this is the best solution. Rated On: October 19, 2015 2:30 am Rated By: azuTen                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: no real solution offered Rated On: March 7, 2016 1:46 am Rated By: eqySam                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I think you would be better off going straight to administration. Rated On: March 3, 2017 10:38 pm Rated By: jeReHy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I would not do this. Rated On: March 6, 2017 3:38 am Rated By: uhuQyM                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: While talking to a guidance counselor may help, more action has to be taken with the parents. Maybe having the counselor at the meeting would help. Rated On: October 11, 2017 12:47 am Rated By: yGeHyz                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Agreed! Rated On: October 14, 2017 2:40 am Rated By: emetub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Well I think that the guidance counselor should have it placed in this situation and can help with the issue, I don't believe that they should be the only way that you approach the issue Rated On: October 16, 2017 12:00 am Rated By: duPuSa                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I feel that the first step should be to try to talk to both parents about how the students behavior is affecting the environment of the classroom. Rated On: February 19, 2018 10:43 pm Rated By: dymaDa                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: A little more work needs to be done in order for this solution to be solved. Just going to a guidance counselor will not help the student change his ways, as he's learning sexism from home. Rated On: July 5, 2018 9:01 pm Rated By: zeXyBy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I don't think going to the guidance counselor will help solve the solution or be useful to the teacher. Rated On: October 14, 2018 9:28 pm Rated By: yJuhuv                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Although a guidance councilor could mediate the conference I dont think this would help the situation. Rated On: October 17, 2019 3:52 pm Rated By: JyLaVe                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Talking to both parents is important Rated On: October 29, 2021 5:50 am Rated By: Drew Brown                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I think this is short and sweet! Rated On: July 19, 2023 6:24 pm Rated By: puRyMe