Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Basketball Team- Similar Case I coached a high school womens basketball team. Several players on the team were openly lesbians. Throughout the course of four years, more and more players "came out." I heard several rumors that one player, Chelsea, was approaching another player, Sarah, and wanting to "date" her. Sarah was not a lesbian and politely handled the matter by simply saying no. After several no's, Chelsea began punishing Sarah on the basketball court. She would not pass Sarah the ball, set picks for Sarah, and continously complain that Sarah wasn't doing her job. Since Chelsea was the leader of the team and of the lesbian group, the other lesbian players treated Sarah the same. It's not fair to Sarah to allow the other players to treat her this way, but I can't call attention to the lesbians without them thinking I'm discriminating.How do I handle this situation? Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) For this, I would first have an individual meeting with Chelsea. She needs to understand that, as the leader of the team, she is the one the girls look to for how they should handle things. She needs to understand that Sarah was showing her respect by giving her a polite "no" rather than calling her out and embarrassing her. She also needs to learn that "no" is "no". There was no reason for her to ask Sarah multiple times for a date. After this individual meeting with Chelsea I would have a meeting with Sarah. You can't just take an action that would effect Sarah and not get her opinion on the matter. There may be a way she wants it to be handled that you wouldn't think of. After your meeting with the two of them you may want to have a joint meeting where they work it out together. Then I would let Chelsea correct the problem she made by having a meeting with the other team members that she conducts herself with your help.                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Rated On: February 12, 2013 3:39 pm Rated By: Nicole Strenkowski                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Rated On: February 18, 2013 9:39 pm Rated By: Sarah Hogan Johnson                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Rated On: March 3, 2013 8:11 pm Rated By: yTuGyd                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Rated On: April 18, 2013 7:58 pm Rated By: Ashley Dellane                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Going to the source can not only resolve the issues between the two girls, but the entire team since Chelsea is a leader and the others will follow suit. Rated On: March 2, 2015 4:11 am Rated By: SeRuru                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: This solution doesn't address sexuality in a negative light. Instead it's a very good solution to a problem that stems from Chelsea and Sarah, not the entire team. Rated On: October 18, 2015 8:03 pm Rated By: eMuHub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I agree. Chelsea is pressuring Sarah into a romantic or sexual relationship in which Sarah does not wish to partake. This is sexual harassment and should be treated no differently than any other different gender sexual harassment case. Rated On: March 3, 2016 12:46 am Rated By: daPaJa                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I like your idea of pulling Chelsea aside. But in your post, you said, "She needs to understand that Sarah was showing her respect by giving her a polite "no" rather than calling her out and embarrassing her." Calling her out would be a horrible thing to do! I don't really think someone deserves praise for refraining from doing a horrible thing. Rated On: October 3, 2016 4:45 pm Rated By: yVuRaR                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is beyond speaking to each girl individually. This has effected the entire team and needs to be addressed as such with everyone. Speaking to everyone about what a team is and that discrimination of any form is not tolerated. Personal preferences need to be left off the court. Rated On: February 24, 2019 9:15 pm Rated By: Keith Evans                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I really like this idea as it takes all parties in to consideration and allows them to explain their thoughts on the matter. Rated On: October 19, 2019 10:00 pm Rated By: maVeqy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I agree with this solution. Rated On: October 18, 2020 8:26 pm Rated By: Jennifer Overbey                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: Joint meeting is a good idea. Rated On: November 11, 2022 9:29 pm Rated By: nemuLy