Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Teacher-Parent Relationship I am a fairly young teacher, and I teach in the same high school I graduated from. Therefore, I know a lot of the parents of the students I teach and coach. I had a relationship with the parents prior to teaching their kids. Therefore, there have times where that parent comes up to me and asks me about a student other than their own because their child is about to start dating them or hanging out with them. Unfortunately, I have to tell these parents that I cannot discuss with them another student that is not their own. How can I express this to the parents without straining the relationship that I have had with them for many years prior? Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) the best thing to say when they ask questions about another student is "I don't know much about him/her".                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: The parents know that you know about the students, this would just make you look like a liar. Rated On: October 18, 2015 10:46 pm Rated By: zaLyju                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: If you knew the students prior and the parents know you knew them, this can send a message that you are lying. Rated On: March 4, 2016 2:25 am Rated By: ezyHes                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original Yes Comments: I don't think this i a good idea because the parent may be persistent with the questioning a proceed with "Well can you find out?". This parent needs to know that it is not okay to expect this teacher to relay information back to them, even if they are friends. The teacher needs to make this clear and understood. Rated On: March 5, 2016 2:48 pm Rated By: Allyssa Straquadine                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: It is never good to lie to parents. Rated On: March 6, 2016 8:30 pm Rated By: anaXan                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is just putting off their questions. If you want them to stop asking, you need to establish boundaries. Telling other parents that you aren't able to discuss other students would prevent further questions. Rated On: October 15, 2016 2:12 pm Rated By: yJatyt                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is not a good solution. It is against the law to discuss anything about another student with someone who is not the parent or guardian. Rated On: October 16, 2016 11:48 pm Rated By: ZeSuQy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This seems like an unprofessional and untruthful answer to give a parent that you have a relationship with. Simply telling them that you cannot disclose student information for safety and legality purposes would do the trick. Rated On: July 8, 2017 2:25 pm Rated By: aByveM                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: The parents will probably continue to push, since this would still be considered engaging in the conversation. Rated On: February 25, 2018 2:02 pm Rated By: baJeTe                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: Just be honest Rated On: October 15, 2018 12:23 am Rated By: aLureP                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is not helpful. Rated On: October 14, 2019 12:00 am Rated By: GeQapy                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: I do not believe that lying to the parents is a good solution. Rated On: February 23, 2020 9:14 pm Rated By: emaXub                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This is not what I would do in this situation because it would not solve the solution and it may raise concerns with the parents. Rated On: October 19, 2020 2:21 am Rated By: Santana Loar                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case No The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This can cause a problem because you are involving other students. Rated On: March 7, 2021 10:14 pm Rated By: zeZedu                 Rating The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No The suggested solution is original No Comments: This will just let the parents keep pestering the teacher about other students. Rated On: October 31, 2021 6:15 am Rated By: aseTyD