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Case: Teacher-Parent Relationship
I am a fairly young teacher, and I teach in the same high school I graduated from. Therefore, I know a lot of the parents of the students I teach and coach. I had a relationship with the parents prior to teaching their kids. Therefore, there have times where that parent comes up to me and asks me about a student other than their own because their child is about to start dating them or hanging out with them. Unfortunately, I have to tell these parents that I cannot discuss with them another student that is not their own. How can I express this to the parents without straining the relationship that I have had with them for many years prior?
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I moved out of the town I grew up in because of issues like this. It is very hard to have a professional relationship with people that you grew up with, because they knew you before you were a professional. I would simply tell them that you cannot discuss other peoples' children because of legal and confidentiality issues. They should understand. Make it clear that you value the relationship with them, but that you cannot risk your job or the privacy of the other students. |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: The solution respects the student. The solution is relevant to the case. It is likely to solve the problem. |
| Rated On: March 4, 2016 2:23 am |
| Rated By: ezyHes |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: Absolutely. They need to understand that you have new restrictions placed upon you, and that you cannot divulge student information. If they value the friendship, they will understand. |
| Rated On: March 4, 2016 5:33 pm |
| Rated By: teVaGu |
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| Comments: Very good advice. |
| Rated On: March 6, 2016 8:29 pm |
| Rated By: anaXan |
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| Comments: I think you took a very wise decision by separating your profession from friendship and compromise your job. |
| Rated On: July 9, 2016 7:37 pm |
| Rated By: PuWupe |
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| Comments: Very well put. |
| Rated On: July 11, 2016 2:39 am |
| Rated By: yGapeW |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: I find that bringing up legal and confidentiality issues will turn people off from asking comments. Usually. |
| Rated On: October 12, 2016 6:52 pm |
| Rated By: etyWys |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: It is very important to let them know that you are not allowed to disclose any information about children other than their own. I would use this same solution. |
| Rated On: October 16, 2016 1:16 am |
| Rated By: ePymyp |
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| Comments: This a good solution. It's hard to separate personal and professional life. |
| Rated On: October 16, 2016 10:01 pm |
| Rated By: zeveLu |
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| Comments: This is what i would do in this situation. |
| Rated On: October 16, 2016 11:48 pm |
| Rated By: ZeSuQy |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would do exactly this. |
| Rated On: March 2, 2017 4:06 am |
| Rated By: ybabaJ |
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| Comments: I think this is a very smart choice |
| Rated On: March 2, 2017 8:40 pm |
| Rated By: eqeJaQ |
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| Comments: I agree and would do the same, they should be understanding. |
| Rated On: March 5, 2017 4:28 am |
| Rated By: e7m1w5 |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: well said |
| Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:26 pm |
| Rated By: VeWyRu |
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| Comments: This is a very professional and responsible way of keeping student information disclosed while not straining the relationship with the parent. |
| Rated On: July 8, 2017 2:26 pm |
| Rated By: aByveM |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: Unfortunately, friendships come and go, but negative professional records are forever. Situations like this are never worth losing a job over. Remain professional and establish boundaries. Say ethical and away from the gossip. |
| Rated On: October 20, 2017 2:51 am |
| Rated By: RaZyma |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: This is a tricky situation. But you have to remember that it isn't that you just don't want to share with them, you legally cannot! It is not worth losing your job over. |
| Rated On: February 24, 2018 8:58 pm |
| Rated By: juduje |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: I think this is a great solution. As a substitute working in my hometown, its extremely difficult to keep that professionalism with those who knew you before you became a professional. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2018 2:01 pm |
| Rated By: baJeTe |
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| Comments: I feel this to be a very effective and useful solution. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:45 pm |
| Rated By: aWyreQ |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: This is exactly what I would do in this situation. I know it can be hard. |
| Rated On: February 26, 2018 2:38 am |
| Rated By: QaHyWe |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
| Rated On: February 28, 2018 12:57 am |
| Rated By: agedyQ |
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| Comments: Good solution |
| Rated On: July 8, 2018 11:24 pm |
| Rated By: yqunaz |
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| Comments: Completely agreed |
| Rated On: October 15, 2018 12:20 am |
| Rated By: aLureP |
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| Comments: This solution is helpful |
| Rated On: February 19, 2019 3:52 pm |
| Rated By: Hyhame |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
| Rated On: February 19, 2019 7:40 pm |
| Rated By: GeQapy |
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| Comments: I like this solution. I feel like they would understand that you as a professional cannot discuss something like that with them, regardless of your relationship. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2019 6:11 am |
| Rated By: Joseph Scharfschwerdt |
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| Comments: I think so too |
| Rated On: October 21, 2019 12:13 am |
| Rated By: ZySaje |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: This is a great solution. |
| Rated On: February 19, 2020 6:27 pm |
| Rated By: JeRaGu |
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| Comments: I believe this is the best way to handle this difficult situation. Your job and students' privacy must come first. |
| Rated On: October 13, 2020 10:24 pm |
| Rated By: RyWaPy |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: It is important to maintain a professional relationship in these circumstances. |
| Rated On: October 19, 2020 1:58 am |
| Rated By: eMuQah |
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| Comments: I think this is a good idea because setting boundaries is very important. |
| Rated On: March 7, 2021 10:13 pm |
| Rated By: zeZedu |
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| Comments: This is a great solution |
| Rated On: July 2, 2021 5:18 pm |
| Rated By: VuBytu |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: Definitely make the parents aware of legal and confidentiality issues as leaking any information could result in you losing your job. |
| Rated On: October 31, 2021 6:14 am |
| Rated By: aseTyD |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: This solution is helpful in the situation given you are explaining to the parents the importance of keeping your job. |
| Rated On: April 2, 2023 2:00 am |
| Rated By: GeduVy |
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