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There is a teacher at my school that is constantly wearing low cut shirts. She is a fourth grade teacher which is the age when students are starting to notice things like this. The administration has not said anything to her and this has been going on for several years now. The other teachers talk about it, but will not saying anything about it. My son will most likely be in her class next year and I would like to bring it to her attention but I do not know if I should. What would be the appropriate way to bring this up?
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If your child is going to be in the teacher's class then I feel that, as a parent of one of her future students, you have the right to address the issue. This is a tricky situation since you have already established a professional relationship with her. I feel that the best course of action would be to talk with her one-on-one. Explain to her that you are not coming to her as a colleague, but as a parent. If you plan what you are going to say, and approach her in a respectful way, I feel that the situation will be okay. If this does not handle the problem, you might want to talk to someone you trust in administration to decide the next course of action.
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Good idea
Rated On: February 26, 2016 3:49 am
Rated By: uVeWar
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree
Rated On: March 1, 2016 3:54 pm
Rated By: daPaJa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree. Speak as a concerned parent.
Rated On: March 2, 2016 12:12 am
Rated By: uGaTyh
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Love this solution. If you do not feel comfortable with her teaching your child it is important you talk to her directly.
Rated On: March 3, 2016 3:16 am
Rated By: uMyQeX
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I definitely think you need to make it clear in what regard you are addressing her, be it professional or as a parent.
Rated On: March 4, 2016 8:14 pm
Rated By: teVaGu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I totally agree with the whole colleague/parent thing.
Rated On: March 5, 2016 3:19 pm
Rated By: Allyssa Straquadine
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Agree with this solution
Rated On: March 6, 2016 1:50 am
Rated By: uPuneq
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I would do this if I were in the situation.
Rated On: March 6, 2016 7:39 pm
Rated By: yLeBun
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree that the issue should be addressed. Respect is a key factor in a situation such as this.
Rated On: March 7, 2016 1:33 am
Rated By: usudaX
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: March 7, 2016 5:58 pm
Rated By: eRyber
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is the best solution. This way the teacher can see you from a parents point of view and therefore fix her appearance
Rated On: October 12, 2016 9:02 pm
Rated By: sammi kocher
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I like how you added to say that this is from a parent stand point.
Rated On: October 13, 2016 7:23 pm
Rated By: TaTaBy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: She needs to be talked to by the admin.
Rated On: October 16, 2016 12:28 am
Rated By: maPyqa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I feel like this is the most polite solution, since you are addressing her as both a colleague and as a student's parent. If this does not solve the issue, then it will need to go to administration.
Rated On: October 16, 2016 9:12 pm
Rated By: uvuVas
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Great steps for this uncomfortable situation.
Rated On: October 16, 2016 10:29 pm
Rated By: zeveLu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I half way agree
Rated On: October 17, 2016 2:03 am
Rated By: veXyge
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree with a solution boundaries must be sad with relationships that are professional and also personal.
Rated On: October 17, 2016 3:27 am
Rated By: Nicole McVey
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is extremely effective because you're covering all of your bases.
Rated On: October 31, 2016 2:32 am
Rated By: Aja Galioto
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Yes parents have a right to address it but it's hard because as a parent you don't want to make the teacher mad at you and take it out on your child.
Rated On: February 26, 2017 9:04 pm
Rated By: eHebah
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Great solution! I would definitely approach the situation in a respectful and tasteful way.
Rated On: March 1, 2017 12:16 am
Rated By: emaHeR
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: I would never do this! This is wrong.
Rated On: March 2, 2017 3:45 pm
Rated By: GyNyzu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, this is exactly what I would do.
Rated On: March 3, 2017 5:39 am
Rated By: udaXuh
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is always an awkward situation but I think planning what you say and going about it respectfully helps.
Rated On: March 4, 2017 11:37 pm
Rated By: quJuja
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: yep
Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:51 pm
Rated By: puSage
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is a great solution.
Rated On: March 6, 2017 1:51 am
Rated By: QaHyWe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree with the solution
Rated On: July 9, 2017 8:51 pm
Rated By: RuWeWe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This would be challenging, but it would help the problem.
Rated On: October 12, 2017 3:50 pm
Rated By: JeVese
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Good idea!
Rated On: October 13, 2017 4:14 pm
Rated By: Lavede
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Great solution!
Rated On: October 14, 2017 1:08 am
Rated By: aBezuz
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I definitely agree that you should approach this from a parent level, and try to let your professional relationship stay as far away from the issue as possible
Rated On: October 16, 2017 2:21 am
Rated By: duPuSa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree
Rated On: October 16, 2017 2:21 am
Rated By: PeMuQa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: helpful
Rated On: October 16, 2017 3:19 am
Rated By: aTuraJ
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree with you 👍
Rated On: February 24, 2018 11:49 pm
Rated By: upyWyH
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I would do the same thing.
Rated On: February 25, 2018 2:03 am
Rated By: baJeTe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: February 25, 2018 3:50 pm
Rated By: Vunypu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: One of the best posts on the page! Very detailed and outstanding ideas to fix the problem.
Rated On: July 6, 2018 2:25 am
Rated By: zeXyBy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Great one. I would do the same thing.
Rated On: July 7, 2018 12:24 pm
Rated By: yqunaz
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: I feel like she wont change her clothes because of one parent.
Rated On: October 11, 2018 7:07 pm
Rated By: yhezuS
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This seems like an effective solution since it directly addresses the problem in a positive way.
Rated On: October 13, 2018 6:42 pm
Rated By: byRyLe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: This is not appropriate. She is a colleague and currently not a parent of a student in her class. The professional thing to do would be to go to administration.
Rated On: October 13, 2018 10:52 pm
Rated By: byXyha
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is a good possible solution
Rated On: February 19, 2019 7:45 pm
Rated By: GeQapy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I like the suggestion of coming up to her as a parent and not a teacher. Then, I would go to administration as well.
Rated On: February 20, 2019 1:22 am
Rated By: dyBese
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree that you should so something
Rated On: February 22, 2019 6:48 pm
Rated By: uzaZuz
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Being respectful in this situation is super important since it is such a touchy subject.
Rated On: July 2, 2019 1:19 am
Rated By: pehute
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Tough one, and I agree.
Rated On: July 2, 2019 9:04 pm
Rated By: quqyVe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This could be a helpful solution.
Rated On: October 20, 2019 6:37 pm
Rated By: Anastasia Stampoulis
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: good idea
Rated On: November 4, 2019 1:35 am
Rated By: seJuQa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree, in this situation you're a parent and not her colleague. If it's a problem for you as a parent you can contact administration.
Rated On: February 18, 2020 11:15 pm
Rated By: agutyT
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I think that this is the best solution so that on a professional level the teacher will not feel like you went behind her back and it gives her the opportunity to correct the behavior on her own. I think administration would only need to get involved if she refused or was disrespectful while speaking to you.
Rated On: February 22, 2020 11:51 pm
Rated By: emaXub
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is what I would do if I was in this situation.
Rated On: February 24, 2020 1:51 am
Rated By: ameteV
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Like many teachers, this problem can only be solved by the higher staff.
Rated On: October 5, 2020 2:24 pm
Rated By: Kenneth Allen
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Approaching her as a parent and not a colleague could be an effective and responsible solution.
Rated On: October 9, 2020 5:47 pm
Rated By: vydeDe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree with this solution and if I were in this situation, I would do exactly the same.
Rated On: October 14, 2020 10:59 pm
Rated By: Yvette Dixon
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: I think the administration should talk to the teacher about it not a parent.
Rated On: March 5, 2021 11:40 pm
Rated By: juRuqa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: The issue with this is people have boobs. In a shirt or in cleavage. If your son is going to be distracted by her body it will not change regardless of her wearing a thicker shirt or not. Don't place the issue fully on the teacher.
Rated On: March 6, 2021 5:35 pm
Rated By: QaRepe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I think this is a good idea
Rated On: November 1, 2021 3:50 am
Rated By: yhedyZ
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: I don't feel like this will help the situation, the teacher may get offended that a colleague came to her about her clothing. It is not her position to do so.
Rated On: April 2, 2022 11:46 pm
Rated By: gupeVy