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Case: Overbearing parent
What do you do when a parent volunteers to help with a lot, which you happily accept, but then they become a little overbearing? I worked with a parent that was willing to help with anything the teachers needed, but once they felt comfortable around the teachers she started overstepping her boundaries. She would give her daughter permission to do things in the classroom that were against the rules but I felt uncomfortable confronting the mom about it. She was so helpful in so many areas that I let the little things slide, but the situation started increasing (snowball effect).
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I would remind the parent nicely that, while this behavior may be appropriate for her daughter at home, and as a single child, it cannot be tolerated in the classroom. Give the parent some perspective: what if all the students did these little things? It can get out of hand quickly. The rules apply to everyone, and unfortunately if the parent cannot respect these boundaries, the parent cannot be in the room. |
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: Giving the parent perspective seems like the right thing to do, but I have seen that this doesn't always work. Some parents don't see the error in their actions. |
Rated On: October 12, 2016 6:40 pm |
Rated By: etyWys |
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: Giving the parent perspective helps solve issues. Communication is important with everyone. |
Rated On: October 12, 2016 8:45 pm |
Rated By: pyGyga |
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: I do agree. However, I'm not sure that removing the parent should be an emediate response. I think the teacher should have several attempts, even though it an be ackward, at talking to the parent and explaining the ituation. |
Rated On: October 14, 2016 2:49 am |
Rated By: emeBuz |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: It provides great details and insight on why this statement is a great solution to this case. |
Rated On: October 14, 2016 11:41 pm |
Rated By: zevuBa |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 12:04 am |
Rated By: junuTu |
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: Yes! |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 12:42 am |
Rated By: maPyqa |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: It may leave a bad impression for someone who is trying to help. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 2:35 am |
Rated By: Kristen OBryant |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: I agree. For these types of situations, it is okay to stand your ground. I would express that although I am grateful for all of the help, I expect certain behavior from all of my students and I cannot bend the rules for some. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 6:03 pm |
Rated By: ajuVyj |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: This solution seems appropriate, I would explain it in a similar manner emphasizing fairness and setting an example to other students including her daughter. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 9:46 pm |
Rated By: Nicole McVey |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: I agree. This is what I would do in this situation. |
Rated On: October 18, 2016 8:39 pm |
Rated By: Daniela |
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: Although it is important to always be respectful, sometimes you have to not beat around the bush and get right to the point. Let the mother know that the rules do no change for anybody and she needs to stop giving special treatment right away. |
Rated On: March 1, 2017 5:30 pm |
Rated By: juduje |
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The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: I would never do this! This is wrong! |
Rated On: March 1, 2017 5:50 pm |
Rated By: GyNyzu |
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Comments: Letting them know that little things like that can easily get put of hand. The rules must apply to everyone and letting the parent know this should help them back down a little bit. Having the help is always nice, but maybe sometimes kindly refuse the help if you really don't need it that day. |
Rated On: March 4, 2017 3:46 pm |
Rated By: avenyB |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: The reality is hard but needs to be stated. |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 6:11 am |
Rated By: Kelsey Lutzi |
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Comments: rules are applicable to all. |
Rated On: July 9, 2017 5:45 pm |
Rated By: uTaGuv |
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Comments: She worded this nicely. |
Rated On: July 19, 2017 5:49 pm |
Rated By: Savannah Lynn |
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Comments: I agree. It's important for both parents and students to understand that everyone is equal, no matter what the relationships are among the parent and teacher. |
Rated On: October 10, 2017 11:35 am |
Rated By: aduNaQ |
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Comments: good solution |
Rated On: February 24, 2018 8:33 pm |
Rated By: aqaMuT |
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Comments: I THINK THERE ARE MORE APPROPRIATE ACTIONS BEFORE YOU DO THAT |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 7:20 pm |
Rated By: yqeQag |
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Comments: I feel this to be a very effective and useful solution. |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:38 pm |
Rated By: aWyreQ |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
Rated On: February 27, 2018 6:47 pm |
Rated By: agedyQ |
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Comments: This makes sense. It creates a realistic picture that may help the parent understand. |
Rated On: March 2, 2018 7:09 pm |
Rated By: equXuh |
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement |
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: I don't really like referring to how the child acts at home, because a lot of the time this is taken the wrong way. |
Rated On: October 14, 2018 7:23 pm |
Rated By: sadaze |
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The suggested solution is original |
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Comments: This solution is helpful |
Rated On: February 19, 2019 2:49 pm |
Rated By: Hyhame |
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Comments: This is a great idea. Remind the parent of the volunteer role and boundaries. |
Rated On: February 22, 2019 9:54 pm |
Rated By: Haley Kennedy |
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Comments: I agree. Thanks. |
Rated On: February 23, 2019 5:37 pm |
Rated By: ejyqeq |
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Comments: I think this may invite confrontation. Punt the ball and state policy and procedures as being the reason they can't do what they are doing. |
Rated On: July 2, 2019 7:20 pm |
Rated By: quqyVe |
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Comments: Correct is the parent continues this behavior she must leave. |
Rated On: July 7, 2019 12:44 am |
Rated By: yHumuG |
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Comments: I agree |
Rated On: October 15, 2019 3:26 pm |
Rated By: uWaMyB |
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Comments: Giving the parent perspective is a great idea and solution, and something I would try as well! Otherwise, they will get away with whatever it is that they want. |
Rated On: October 31, 2021 9:20 pm |
Rated By: dedyqa |
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