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Case: Overbearing parent
What do you do when a parent volunteers to help with a lot, which you happily accept, but then they become a little overbearing? I worked with a parent that was willing to help with anything the teachers needed, but once they felt comfortable around the teachers she started overstepping her boundaries. She would give her daughter permission to do things in the classroom that were against the rules but I felt uncomfortable confronting the mom about it. She was so helpful in so many areas that I let the little things slide, but the situation started increasing (snowball effect).
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
This is a very difficult situation. I would pull the parent aside and thank her for all that she does, but remind her that there are certain rules that EVERY student needs to follow in order for others to feel they are being treated the same. |
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Comments: This sounds like a good solution. You want to make sure she knows you appreciate the help while gently reinforcing the rules. |
Rated On: October 15, 2016 1:52 pm |
Rated By: yJatyt |
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Comments: I would use this solution to the situation. The parent may just need to be reminded. |
Rated On: October 15, 2016 6:57 pm |
Rated By: ePymyp |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
Rated On: October 15, 2016 9:27 pm |
Rated By: yTutar |
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Comments: Yes equalize it. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 12:42 am |
Rated By: maPyqa |
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Comments: This is a great solution for a difficult situation. I would use this approach in my classroom as well. |
Rated On: October 16, 2016 11:28 pm |
Rated By: ZeSuQy |
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Comments: It is very important to make sure the parent knows how much you appreciate their help. I like this suggestion. It is respectful and to the point. |
Rated On: February 26, 2017 5:10 pm |
Rated By: Melissa Dison |
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Comments: I agree that it is important to remind the mother that all students MUST follow the same rules. And that her daughter is not an exception. |
Rated On: March 1, 2017 5:29 pm |
Rated By: juduje |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. |
Rated On: March 1, 2017 5:51 pm |
Rated By: GyNyzu |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. I believe it is important to give the parent positive feedback but reminding them that it is the classroom where the rules apply to everyone is an absolute. Making sure everyone is treated fairly is extremely important. |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 1:29 am |
Rated By: zazyny |
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Comments: I would do this as well. No special privileges. |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 3:53 am |
Rated By: e7m1w5 |
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Comments: Communication is key! This is a great solution. |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 6:10 am |
Rated By: Kelsey Lutzi |
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Comments: well said |
Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:11 pm |
Rated By: VeWyRu |
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Comments: I think that this is a good solution to this awkward situation. |
Rated On: March 6, 2017 3:12 am |
Rated By: aGeteb |
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Comments: Yes make sure she knows her place, you are the teacher and you have the right to set the rules. |
Rated On: July 7, 2017 9:11 pm |
Rated By: RuWeWe |
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Comments: fair. |
Rated On: July 9, 2017 5:44 pm |
Rated By: uTaGuv |
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Comments: This is a good solution without being rude or inconsiderate. |
Rated On: July 19, 2017 5:49 pm |
Rated By: Savannah Lynn |
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Comments: This is a helpful solution because it doesn't favor one student over the others, and ensures equal treatment. |
Rated On: October 13, 2017 3:21 pm |
Rated By: uqaTaq |
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Comments: I agree. Just be open, appreciative, and respectful. |
Rated On: October 13, 2017 6:41 pm |
Rated By: JyGeLe |
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Comments: This would be helpful and not make the parent feel like she is being attacked. |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 1:47 pm |
Rated By: baJeTe |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 3:46 pm |
Rated By: Vunypu |
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this” |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 7:19 pm |
Rated By: yqeQag |
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Comments: I feel this to be a very effective and useful solution. |
Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:38 pm |
Rated By: aWyreQ |
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Comments: This is exactly what I would do in this situation. |
Rated On: February 26, 2018 2:32 am |
Rated By: QaHyWe |
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Comments: I think this is the best solution. The parent should understand that as a teacher, favorites cannot be played and no one is above the rules. |
Rated On: July 6, 2018 5:30 pm |
Rated By: Rochelle Young |
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Rated On: October 9, 2018 12:33 am |
Rated By: pagyDa |
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Comments: This is a very good solution. Communication is important. |
Rated On: October 14, 2018 7:22 pm |
Rated By: sadaze |
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Comments: This solution is useful |
Rated On: February 19, 2019 2:47 pm |
Rated By: Hyhame |
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Comments: I think this solution may be effective in this difficult situation. Addressing the parent in a calm and polite manner will prevent the parent from feeling personally attacked. This solution is good because it refrains from accusing the parent and addressing the situation too harshly. Kindly explaining to the parent the importance of rules to ensure successful classroom management will help the parent understand why the rules are in place and must they be applied equally to every student. |
Rated On: February 21, 2019 5:53 am |
Rated By: dygavu |
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Comments: I agree pull the parent aside privately so they do not feel embarrassed or confronted. |
Rated On: February 24, 2019 1:59 am |
Rated By: Myria Coure |
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Comments: This is a great response. The parent needs to know that even though she is being allowed to help with certain things, you are still the teacher, these are still your students until school is over, and there are rules that every student needs to follow. Favoritism is not acceptable. |
Rated On: February 24, 2019 1:56 pm |
Rated By: Keith Evans |
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Comments: great insights! |
Rated On: February 25, 2019 3:09 am |
Rated By: eNesuS |
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Comments: Yes, using the guidelines and procedures to your advantage... |
Rated On: July 2, 2019 7:19 pm |
Rated By: quqyVe |
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Comments: The parent must be pulled aside an bounderies set or she will walk all over you thinking it is her classroom. |
Rated On: July 7, 2019 12:43 am |
Rated By: yHumuG |
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Comments: If I was a teacher, I would definitely do this. A parent has no right to overstep boundaries like that, even if they are helpful. |
Rated On: July 7, 2019 12:44 am |
Rated By: yJyLep |
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Comments: I agree. I imagine it could be hard to not be "in charge" of your student when you are in the class, but every student must follow the same rules despite who is in the room. |
Rated On: October 14, 2019 7:49 pm |
Rated By: uPuhuP |
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Comments: I agree this is a good solution. |
Rated On: October 20, 2019 6:33 pm |
Rated By: JeTeQu |
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Comments: This is a great solution. |
Rated On: February 19, 2020 6:41 pm |
Rated By: JeRaGu |
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Comments: This is a great solution with good ideas. |
Rated On: February 26, 2020 12:30 am |
Rated By: eraquR |
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Comments: I like this solution |
Rated On: July 2, 2020 4:16 pm |
Rated By: yzubyz |
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Comments: Rules do have to be followed and if one student is the exception then everyone else will feel that they are getting a special privilege. |
Rated On: October 31, 2021 5:36 am |
Rated By: aseTyD |
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Comments: I like to see the best in people always, but I do have to say that I believe that some people are manipulative and will work their way toward the inside to get what they want. I believe you are within your rights as the educator and faculty at your school to confront her and ask her to stop. |
Rated On: October 31, 2021 9:20 pm |
Rated By: dedyqa |
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Comments: This is a great solution! |
Rated On: November 1, 2023 10:05 pm |
Rated By: aBuQat |
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