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I had a student roll up their little half paper homework sheet, and pretend to smoke out of it like they were smoking marijuana. They were telling all of the students who didn't know what that was that their parents do it. I did not want my students going home and telling their parents what was being said in the classroom so I address the parents of the student who started this. They were very aggressive and told me to stay out of their business. What should I do to make sure it doesn't happen again?

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Hi aDaWaV,

First, I would conference with administration to confirm how the school policies dictate this should be handled. Once this is established, I would conference with the student to let them know why that behavior is not acceptable. Explain that there is zero tolerance for drug related activities at school. Explain that their parents have the choice and freedom to do this if they want, but that is a personal decision that the parents likely will not want the student spreading around. Emphasize that the student will get a consequence if he/she continues to talk about i to others. I don't think you did anything wrong by telling the parents, as that is a very personal piece of information that they probably do not want their child spreading around. I would make sure that the parents understand that they do not need to confirm whether it is true or not as that is their personal business, but that you just wanted to notify them that their child was talking about this in public and spreading this information. Make sure the parents understand that you are not judging them, just informing them. I would conference (phone or in person) with the parents to explain this but I would not hold the conference alone - I would involve another teacher or admin as a witness in case the parents react unfavorably.

Melissa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I think this solution is a good one to solving the problem as it would allow administrators to know of what is occurring and help with how to best handle situation. I like the solution as it is detailed and goes through steps of finding the right solution for the problem, as sometimes scenarios need different approaches for the problem to be handled correctly.
Rated On: February 27, 2017 2:23 am
Rated By: aHeXud
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: This solution was very thought out and well put. It is important to put a stop to this type of behavior right away.
Rated On: March 1, 2017 5:21 pm
Rated By: juduje
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I think the solution useful
Rated On: March 2, 2017 11:54 pm
Rated By: tuBaZu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: Very thorough!
Rated On: March 4, 2017 11:32 pm
Rated By: atugym
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. I think it is great that you mentioned that you do not want them to confirm or deny, just simply sharing what he shared. A lot of great advice in this solution!
Rated On: March 5, 2017 1:24 am
Rated By: zazyny
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I agree, if the parents are not cooperating then just let the student know that drug related acts will not be tolerated and start punishing him with a silent lunch or no recess then maybe he will stop the acts.
Rated On: March 5, 2017 2:43 am
Rated By: avenyB
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I would do the same thing. Especially the consequence part.
Rated On: March 5, 2017 3:48 am
Rated By: e7m1w5
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: This is an appropriate answer.
Rated On: March 5, 2017 6:08 am
Rated By: Kelsey Lutzi
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: well said
Rated On: March 5, 2017 9:09 pm
Rated By: VeWyRu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I think that this solution was great and very thorough. I would use this advice in my classroom.
Rated On: March 6, 2017 3:16 am
Rated By: aGeteb
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: Good Solution!
Rated On: March 6, 2017 11:15 pm
Rated By: Vuqaqa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: Your solution sounds appropriate and effective.
Rated On: July 9, 2017 2:21 am
Rated By: jeRumu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case No
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
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Comments: That is a great response. I agree with all that you said.
Rated On: October 7, 2017 4:12 pm
Rated By: napyze
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: I agree, and this is a hard situation
Rated On: October 10, 2017 3:29 pm
Rated By: aNaMeJ
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
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Comments: This solves multiple parts of the issue!
Rated On: October 12, 2017 12:18 am
Rated By: JeVese
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: This is a great and thorough solution
Rated On: October 12, 2017 2:22 am
Rated By: aRaLeg
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: This is a great solution that holds all the important parts on this topic. Drugs affiliation is a no-no in schools and this student shouldn't speak with others about it.
Rated On: October 12, 2017 4:48 pm
Rated By: yneLuM
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: I think that you did a great job going in depth of how to handle this situation. I believe that many people may be inexperienced with this so your solution is a great example to follow.
Rated On: October 14, 2017 1:42 am
Rated By: GaVyme
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: This solution is good because it addresses the behavior as well as reaches out to parents in a way that is sensible and careful not to offend.
Rated On: October 15, 2017 4:28 am
Rated By: qedeDe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
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Comments: Communication with parents is vital.
Rated On: October 15, 2017 9:23 pm
Rated By: yLuDeh
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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Comments: very good. efficient
Rated On: October 16, 2017 2:51 am
Rated By: yReNyp
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: I feel that this is the best way to handle this situation. Make sure the parents understand that you are not questioning them, but letting them know what their child is saying about them.
Rated On: February 19, 2018 7:52 pm
Rated By: dymaDa
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: I completely agree and would use this solution
Rated On: February 24, 2018 11:37 pm
Rated By: upyWyH
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: February 25, 2018 3:45 pm
Rated By: Vunypu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this”
Rated On: February 25, 2018 7:23 pm
Rated By: yqeQag
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I think this is a very respectful way of handling this situation. It is important that the child knows that it is inappropriate to talk about at school.
Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:16 pm
Rated By: DuTepy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I feel this to be a very effective and useful solution.
Rated On: February 25, 2018 10:33 pm
Rated By: aWyreQ
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: February 27, 2018 6:45 pm
Rated By: agedyQ
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I totally agree with this answer, I will definitely keep it in mind for future years and using it in my classroom
Rated On: July 4, 2018 3:30 pm
Rated By: eReXaG
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is an excellent solution. Administration should definitely be informed if it is confirmed that the parents are smoking marijuana in front of their child at home. Making the student aware that the school has a zero-tolerance policy for drugs is extremely important.
Rated On: July 6, 2018 5:27 pm
Rated By: Rochelle Young
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: This solution is useful
Rated On: February 19, 2019 3:05 pm
Rated By: Hyhame
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: February 19, 2019 7:34 pm
Rated By: GeQapy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I think its great to involve the school administration to make sure the situation doesn't get out of hand. Also, talking to the parent and just informing them of the situation is good as well because you are not being disrespect just informing what is going on at school.
Rated On: February 20, 2019 2:59 pm
Rated By: Meghan Fletcher
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
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The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree conference with administration first.
Rated On: February 24, 2019 1:55 am
Rated By: Myria Coure
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Great way of making sure the student is held accountable and would have high chances of not repeating the behavior.
Rated On: February 24, 2019 5:15 am
Rated By: ysyBuW
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I agree and I would also add that I would make sure to have another person around for now on when talking to the parents about this subject mater.
Rated On: February 24, 2019 7:55 pm
Rated By: upehaS
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: great insights!
Rated On: February 25, 2019 3:10 am
Rated By: eNesuS
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: Yep, what I would do too.
Rated On: July 2, 2019 7:45 pm
Rated By: quqyVe
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: This is a very detailed response and I think that it is the perfect solution for this problem.
Rated On: February 23, 2020 8:56 pm
Rated By: emaXub
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: I fully agree with this solution. It is important that the student knows that they cannot be talking about that kind of ting in class and that it is clear to the parents that you are not judging them and simply want your students to be focused on what they need to be focused on in class.
Rated On: October 14, 2020 7:02 pm
Rated By: RyWaPy
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
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The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: I agree. Be polite but firm.
Rated On: March 4, 2021 11:43 pm
Rated By: yqeRas
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
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Comments: this was so beautifully expressed, loved it
Rated On: July 2, 2021 2:35 am
Rated By: VuBytu
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
The suggested solution is original Yes
Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this
Rated On: October 26, 2021 1:41 am
Rated By: aVuLyX
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: This is a very detailed and helpful response
Rated On: October 30, 2021 2:23 am
Rated By: nySyne
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: Definitely check with the administration as this seems to be a delicate situation.
Rated On: October 31, 2021 5:27 am
Rated By: aseTyD
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
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Comments: good idea
Rated On: October 31, 2021 5:18 pm
Rated By: quHyra
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
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The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement Yes
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue Yes
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Comments: I think this is a good idea
Rated On: November 1, 2021 3:54 am
Rated By: yhedyZ