Home | How It Works | Stats Login | Register         Case: Basketball Team- Similar Case I coached a high school womens basketball team. Several players on the team were openly lesbians. Throughout the course of four years, more and more players "came out." I heard several rumors that one player, Chelsea, was approaching another player, Sarah, and wanting to "date" her. Sarah was not a lesbian and politely handled the matter by simply saying no. After several no's, Chelsea began punishing Sarah on the basketball court. She would not pass Sarah the ball, set picks for Sarah, and continously complain that Sarah wasn't doing her job. Since Chelsea was the leader of the team and of the lesbian group, the other lesbian players treated Sarah the same. It's not fair to Sarah to allow the other players to treat her this way, but I can't call attention to the lesbians without them thinking I'm discriminating.How do I handle this situation? Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!) The action you described where the a leader has establish aggressive behavior toward a team mate is Bullying. As an experienced male coach in fast-pitched softball, I can relate to the brutality a team leader can have on a Teammate. You can address the actions your observing and not the have to get into sexuality. The role a person is expected on the team is greater then of the field romance. If the player can't understand this, the player may need to step away so they can refocus.