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Case: Little children getting a little too close
Let us say you have two children around 6-7 years old in your class who grow to be close friends. You see the girl just wants to be friends and the boy is overly attached bringing in gifts for the girl, is always around her, and you overhear that he is calling her at home. You can see it going in a bad direction, as far as someone's feelings getting hurt. Is there grounds for action, and if there is when is the right time?
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
It is common for students to become close friends and sometimes one student to feel stronger about the other and the feeling to not be mutual from the other party. If, as the teacher, you feel that the situation is going in a bad direction, regarding feelings, it is important to talk to your students, separately, about the situation and then communicate with their parents what is going on. If the boy is bringing in gifts for the girl, it is likely that his parents or guardians have some knowledge of his interest in the girl and therefore can be informed of the issues involved in bringing in items for only one student. They may also be willing to talk to their child, once you explain that the feelings are not mutual between the two children, and help him to understand his feelings and what is happening in a more family oriented, loving, personal manner that may not come from having a talk with you, the teacher. This parent-teacher discussion could also put an end to the phone calls to her house. However, if the girl's parents have not contacted you or the boy's parents about these alleged phone calls, maybe what is happening is not as serious as you are assuming. While in school, it is important to do your best as the teacher to open the boy up to making new friends and engaging in conversation with multiple students. One way this could be achieved would be to have a surprise desk-rotation day in which you place students in a new desk formation with different students for them to be around and work with. This is a subtle way for you to separate the boy and girl and give the boy an opportunity to be around someone new. You can also create new cooperative learning groups and develop fun activities for the groups to do. This way the boy gets to participate in an activity with other students and not be so concentrated on the girl. Regarding the girl, unless she expresses her extreme distaste for the boy and comes to you with complaints, or the boy starts to become physical, I see no need in making it more than it is and no need to contact the girl's parents. |
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| Rated On: February 13, 2013 12:10 pm |
| Rated By: eHeGuL |
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| Comments: Great Post |
| Rated On: February 25, 2013 1:31 pm |
| Rated By: eruHeB |
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| Rated On: February 25, 2013 7:42 pm |
| Rated By: eMypur |
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| Rated On: February 26, 2013 11:02 am |
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| Rated On: February 28, 2013 10:51 pm |
| Rated By: hujupu |
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| Rated On: March 2, 2013 12:34 pm |
| Rated By: emaLeP |
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| Comments: If the boy is bringing gifts to school for the girl, then it is likely the parents are aware of the situation and may assume "how cute". Classroom rules should be put into place about not bringing in toys, etc to school. Separate the children where possible, but if more is made out of the situation than actually exists, it may escalate. |
| Rated On: October 14, 2014 3:09 pm |
| Rated By: Denise Lukacik |
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| Comments: great way to approach the issue. |
| Rated On: October 14, 2014 7:27 pm |
| Rated By: ehaZeb |
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| Comments: I agree with this solution. I love the idea of the "surprise desk-rotation". This is a great way to rearrange students when you have an issue regarding their desk mate. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2014 5:14 pm |
| Rated By: Dana Johnson |
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| Comments: I like this solution and find it to be quite helpful. Letting the parents know what is going on is a good idea. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2014 6:39 pm |
| Rated By: taMaSe |
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| Comments: Very thorough and properly structered. Good solution too |
| Rated On: October 18, 2014 2:28 pm |
| Rated By: TuBuJy |
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| Comments: I agree with the desk and group shuffling. This will give the children a chance to be apart and make friends with others so that he might not stay as fixated on that one girl. If she wants to be friends, then it doesn't seem out of the ordinary for him to be calling her at home. If the attention became negative or if there was a serious problem, I would hope the girl's parents would mention something to you or to his parents. |
| Rated On: October 20, 2014 1:11 am |
| Rated By: WeGuQy |
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| Comments: Great solution. |
| Rated On: February 27, 2015 2:10 am |
| Rated By: Shannon Stephens |
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