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  Case: Her Parents or Her Boyfriend
As a high school teacher, somehow I always hated when students opened up to me and shared with me things that they could not share with anyone else. It was one of those things again when Emily, a White 11th grader, wanted to talk to me. She said she wanted to talk to me about something important and that she needed my help. I am a caring teacher, so I listened. She has been dating an African American student named Willy and she is really in love with him. Willy loves her too. They want to go to the same college and get married after graduating. The problem is Emily has not been able to tell her family about this relationship. She said that her father is not very fond of Black people, and that there is no way he would approve this relationship. She asked me to talk to her parents. I told her that I could not do it. She, then said, she would either kill herself or run away from her house if somebody did not convince her parents. I have to do something, but what? Please advice.
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I think that Emily's parents should be aware of the situation. If she is a risk to herself or others, her parents need to know so that they can address it. While usually I would say it is none of your business, Emily has made it very clear that it now IS your business. I wouldn't say that it is your job to convince her parents to let her date Willy, but it is your job to let them be informed of the situation and let them handle it as they see fit.
 
     
     
  Rating
The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) No
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: I agree that the parents need to be involved, but that is not the only party that needs to be involved. For this solution to be effective and professional the teacher needs to reach out to an administrator to meet with the teacher and parents to address the problem.
Rated On: July 5, 2016 3:15 am
Rated By: aWyVys