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Case: Blaming The Teacher
I have witnessed many parents who like to make excuses for their children. They also like to blame the teacher. I have heard several comments such as "well, what did you do to make Bobby mad?" I have never known the proper approach to dealing with these situations.
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I would calmly explain the whole situation to the parent, and would let them know what triggered Bobby's anger. I would completely disregard their question of what I did to make him mad, because this is an attempt to cause conflict. I would make a log of what things happened before an instance of anger, as well as after. This log will allow the me to provide evidence of triggers for his anger. |
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| Comments: Avoiding conflict at all cost with the parent is always a plus. |
| Rated On: February 23, 2015 8:58 pm |
| Rated By: anuhag |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. A non-combative approach with supporting log to present to the parents is a good way to respond to their initial opinion. |
| Rated On: February 24, 2015 3:00 am |
| Rated By: tuWyDe |
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| Comments: Keeping a log is a good way to keep track of the student's behaviors, comments, triggers and reactions to the situation. |
| Rated On: February 24, 2015 5:57 pm |
| Rated By: aNaQev |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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Comments: Avoiding conflict is a great way to start.
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| Rated On: February 25, 2015 1:38 am |
| Rated By: Jen |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| The suggested solution is relevant to the case |
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| Comments: I like your suggestion of keeping a log of the student's triggers as to try and avoid them or work through them in the future. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2015 3:24 am |
| Rated By: BeMyDu |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: I like this. We want to avoid conflict at all costs. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2015 6:17 pm |
| Rated By: Sydbug |
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| Comments: I think this is a great solution for this situation. Good idea disregarding their question of what you did wrong and avoiding conflict so you can really help the student and focus on them. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2015 8:01 pm |
| Rated By: Shannon Stephens |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: This solution is useful because unlike other solutions, this one takes a calm approach to dealing with angry parents. |
| Rated On: February 25, 2015 10:48 pm |
| Rated By: Charity Knowles |
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| The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) |
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| Comments: I agree. I feel that if you have a log for each time the child has gotten angry there is no room to blame the teacher. |
| Rated On: February 26, 2015 2:41 am |
| Rated By: eSaPaz |
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| Comments: I like that you would disregard the parent's question so it doesn't create more conflict. |
| Rated On: February 26, 2015 8:01 pm |
| Rated By: BuMynu |
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| Comments: Keeps the whole situation in check. |
| Rated On: February 27, 2015 4:46 pm |
| Rated By: qyMeda |
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| Comments: Great use of documentation and diffusing a hostile situation. |
| Rated On: February 27, 2015 5:10 pm |
| Rated By: myNyHy |
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| Comments: I think that it is a great idea to disregard what the parent say dealing with "what did you do" and just calmly explain to the parent what happened and what triggered his anger. The log is an excellent idea to help show the parent what has made the student angry in past to help explain where you are coming from. |
| Rated On: February 27, 2015 8:59 pm |
| Rated By: NaHuVa |
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| Comments: This is an excellent solution. I would definately keep documentation of the behavior of what triggers his anger so the parent can develop a better understanding of what is going on in the classroom and is making him act out. |
| Rated On: February 27, 2015 10:49 pm |
| Rated By: uVataS |
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| Comments: I like this approach because it avoids confrontation with the parents while still addressing the problem. Having a log also gives you evidence to back up your claims so parents can not say that you are exaggerating or lying about the misbehavior. |
| Rated On: February 28, 2015 1:50 am |
| Rated By: Hannah Poore |
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| Comments: I agree with this statement, disregarding the parents statement would be a good thing to do and continuing to explain the situation is a positive way to handle this. Also by having the log can help the parents see that this is a very common thing and could develop to a classroom disruption. |
| Rated On: March 1, 2015 12:56 am |
| Rated By: LedaQy |
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| Comments: Sometimes you have to show proof to get results. |
| Rated On: March 1, 2015 1:03 am |
| Rated By: Natisha |
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| Comments: Great idea with the log! |
| Rated On: March 1, 2015 4:27 am |
| Rated By: apazeR |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would do exactly this. I would use this solution because it is a calm approach backed up by evidence. |
| Rated On: March 1, 2015 10:49 am |
| Rated By: Mariah Salas |
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| Comments: Great response. |
| Rated On: March 1, 2015 10:34 pm |
| Rated By: gumeje |
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| Comments: Keeping a log of all incidents is extremely helpful in such cases. Almost vital when dealing with parents on any matter concerning their child. |
| Rated On: March 3, 2015 12:28 am |
| Rated By: eWeHaz |
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| Comments: I really like your idea of making a log. That way you can give clear evidence of what happened to cause the child's anger. |
| Rated On: September 30, 2015 9:10 pm |
| Rated By: Megan Lee |
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| Comments: Great solution! |
| Rated On: October 16, 2015 12:14 am |
| Rated By: uJuPyS |
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| Comments: It is important not to trigger the parent by shifting the blame. It take two to tango, just as it can with conflicts. Documenting incidents and providing evidence to the parent is the best possible solution because parents will most likely think their child is incapable of starting any conflicts. |
| Rated On: October 15, 2016 5:16 am |
| Rated By: Nicole McVey |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, this is exactly what I would do. |
| Rated On: March 2, 2017 4:52 am |
| Rated By: ybabaJ |
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| Comments: It is important to document everything |
| Rated On: March 3, 2017 8:21 pm |
| Rated By: eqeJaQ |
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| Comments: I would do this exact same thing! Very helpful comment! |
| Rated On: July 8, 2017 9:23 pm |
| Rated By: eRahyR |
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| Comments: I agree, this is a good approach. |
| Rated On: March 2, 2018 7:36 pm |
| Rated By: equXuh |
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| Rated On: October 9, 2018 12:34 am |
| Rated By: pagyDa |
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| Comments: I agree with this. Directly replying to them asking what you did to make their child angry would just cause the conflict that you are trying to avoid. |
| Rated On: October 14, 2020 7:21 pm |
| Rated By: RyWaPy |
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| Comments: I think it is good to diffuse conflict and not elaborate when they ask your involvement in the child's behavior. |
| Rated On: October 18, 2020 7:13 pm |
| Rated By: Mutyre |
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| Comments: The log is a great idea |
| Rated On: July 1, 2021 6:16 pm |
| Rated By: yTuWeG |
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| Comments: This is a good solution |
| Rated On: November 10, 2022 6:56 am |
| Rated By: muWyZy |
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