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Case: Teacher crush
I teach special education and have an 8th grade student with autism on my caseload. His math teacher informed me recently that she thinks he has a crush on her. He is new to the school and has not made any friends but is more comfortable talking with adults than his peers. When walking to lunch, he does not walk with the class and instead walks closely beside his teacher. He also visits her between every class period and tries to give her hugs and wants to rest his head on her shoulder. One day during a restroom break, I saw him trying to take a picture of her on his cell phone. When she has talked to him about appropriate relationships between teachers and students he does not seem to understand and asks questions such as "So, are we still cool?" afterwards. When I spoke with him about it and suggested that we may have to change his class, he broke down and started crying. But is there any other way that I could handle this situation without changing his teacher?
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
If there has been a conversation between the student and the teacher and the behavior has not changed or improved, then the parent needs to be involved with an administrator mediator. I say this because as educators, we are always at fault. To avoid any unnecessary allegations, I would deem it important to alert the parent of the issue and the administration, so the parent could possibly talk to the young man, and the administration will have knowledge of the issue. I think this would cover all professional parties from any code of ethics violation. |
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| Comments: I did end up talking to an administrator who also suggested calling the parents. The parent was able to have a more candid conversation with the child which improved the behavior. |
| Rated On: March 12, 2015 3:02 am |
| Rated By: udapum |
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| Comments: Keeping it professional is key! |
| Rated On: March 12, 2015 1:22 pm |
| Rated By: RuReja |
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| Comments: I also agree that this solution would cover all ethical and professional protocol as well. |
| Rated On: March 15, 2015 4:56 pm |
| Rated By: XyGady |
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| Comments: Getting the parents involved is the smartest resolution. |
| Rated On: July 1, 2015 5:22 pm |
| Rated By: huQeTe |
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| Comments: I agree that the parent should become involved. Even though the teacher did all that they could to change the situation, it would be beneficial to get the parents and administration involved as well. |
| Rated On: September 30, 2015 9:26 pm |
| Rated By: Megan Lee |
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| Comments: I agree, this solution is very useful. |
| Rated On: October 16, 2015 4:19 am |
| Rated By: uJuPyS |
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| Comments: I agree that the process should first start with student and teacher in this case, and then informing both administration and parents if the issue progresses or becomes worrisome. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2015 5:16 am |
| Rated By: Cortnie |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2015 2:24 pm |
| Rated By: seqeJe |
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| Comments: I agree. Sometimes things can get out of hand so its best to let parents and administrators know this information. |
| Rated On: October 18, 2015 4:10 am |
| Rated By: yZanaJ |
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| Comments: I agree bring in the parents and admin would be the best course of action. |
| Rated On: October 18, 2015 9:38 pm |
| Rated By: tygaBu |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
| Rated On: October 18, 2015 10:40 pm |
| Rated By: punybu |
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| Comments: It seems as if this is the only option left because all others have been implemented. You don't want any trouble coming from this supposed "crush" and as a teacher, allegations in this subject could come back to haunt you later in your career. |
| Rated On: October 18, 2015 11:38 pm |
| Rated By: ezyMyM |
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| Comments: Great answer if I am ever in that situation I will use the solution you gave. |
| Rated On: October 19, 2015 2:45 am |
| Rated By: Dan G |
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| Comments: This is useful |
| Rated On: October 19, 2015 2:55 am |
| Rated By: azuTen |
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| Comments: I agree, it is best to inform administration and the parents so that everyone knows what's going on in case the situation does not improve. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2016 1:32 am |
| Rated By: aLuruz |
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| Comments: The solution can easily be implemented and shows the importance of having administrators involved and helping to solve the problem. Great idea! |
| Rated On: February 27, 2017 3:16 am |
| Rated By: aHeXud |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, this is exactly what I would do. |
| Rated On: March 3, 2017 6:04 am |
| Rated By: udaXuh |
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| Comments: Absolutely. A parent should be notified as soon as possible. |
| Rated On: March 5, 2017 12:57 am |
| Rated By: jyvubu |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this. I believe informing all parties of the situation is the best option. After talking with the student and still no changes have been made then the student might have to be moved to a new classroom. |
| Rated On: March 5, 2017 5:00 am |
| Rated By: zazyny |
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| Comments: Agreed, alert the issue |
| Rated On: July 9, 2017 9:23 pm |
| Rated By: RuWeWe |
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| Comments: All parties should know. I agree. |
| Rated On: July 19, 2017 6:52 pm |
| Rated By: Savannah Lynn |
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| Comments: I agree |
| Rated On: October 6, 2017 4:31 pm |
| Rated By: ysyver |
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| Comments: If I were in this situation, I would exactly do this |
| Rated On: October 15, 2017 11:45 pm |
| Rated By: eGabez |
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| Comments: This is out of their hands and parents and administration needs to be involved. |
| Rated On: October 16, 2017 2:59 am |
| Rated By: LuXaSe |
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| Comments: What an incredibly awkward situation to find yourself in, but I agree with this suggestion and to avoid allegationg and for legal protection, I would have the students class changed. |
| Rated On: October 17, 2017 1:45 pm |
| Rated By: Ramos |
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| Comments: I agree that the parent may need to get involved to try and clear up any misunderstandings the student has about his relationship with the student. It's better to be safe than sorry! |
| Rated On: October 12, 2018 2:21 am |
| Rated By: eguQep |
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| Comments: It is definitely important that all parties understand the situation so that there are no allegations directed toward the teacher. great solution. |
| Rated On: February 23, 2019 10:38 pm |
| Rated By: HaJeRe |
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| Comments: This would be the best way to solve the problem. |
| Rated On: February 24, 2019 4:02 am |
| Rated By: ysyBuW |
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| Comments: parents and administrators should be involved. |
| Rated On: February 24, 2019 8:37 pm |
| Rated By: upehaS |
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| Comments: i agree with this solution |
| Rated On: February 25, 2019 3:14 am |
| Rated By: yVevyQ |
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| Comments: I agree everyone should know |
| Rated On: July 7, 2019 8:53 pm |
| Rated By: Brenda Perez Prieto |
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| Comments: I agree with this suggestion, it sounds like the most efficient way to handle the situation |
| Rated On: November 10, 2022 8:04 am |
| Rated By: muWyZy |
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