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  Case: Her Parents or Her Boyfriend
As a high school teacher, somehow I always hated when students opened up to me and shared with me things that they could not share with anyone else. It was one of those things again when Emily, a White 11th grader, wanted to talk to me. She said she wanted to talk to me about something important and that she needed my help. I am a caring teacher, so I listened. She has been dating an African American student named Willy and she is really in love with him. Willy loves her too. They want to go to the same college and get married after graduating. The problem is Emily has not been able to tell her family about this relationship. She said that her father is not very fond of Black people, and that there is no way he would approve this relationship. She asked me to talk to her parents. I told her that I could not do it. She, then said, she would either kill herself or run away from her house if somebody did not convince her parents. I have to do something, but what? Please advice.
Solution: (Rates are posted for this solution!)
I would tell Emily that killing herself or running will not solve the problem. Also that if she does that she will hurt people whom love her like me and Willy. I will tell her to just talk to her parents herself and tell them how she really feels about the situation. I will even tell her to tell Willy to present himself in a manner able way to her parents. I feel that soon or later her parents are going to have to accept it because she going to still date him regardless of their attitude.
 
     
     
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The suggested solution is respectful of the individual (student) Yes
The suggested solution is relevant to the case Yes
The suggested solution is reasonable (easy) for the teacher to implement No
The suggested solution is likely to solve the problem/issue No
The suggested solution is original No
Comments: Although I agree with the underlying message of this solution, I don't feel it would be beneficial to guilt the student nor tell them what they most likely already are aware of. This problem is meant to be handled delicately by a mental health professional, especially if the parents are not understanding.
Rated On: July 23, 2023 9:48 pm
Rated By: zyzuDy